“Truth is like the stars; it does not appear except from behind obscurity of the night. Truth is like all beautiful things in the world; it does not disclose its desirability except to those who first feel the influence of falsehood. Truth is a deep kindness that teaches us to be content in our everyday life and share with the people the same happiness.” Kahlil Gibran
I’ve pondered on the number of things I thought I knew for sure, and then found out they weren’t true. I’ve held tight to many ideas that somewhere down the road proved to be a fallacy, which is an error in reasoning. It is not easy to let go of that which held meaning for me for years.
Some beliefs I’ve had to give up are:
- It doesn’t matter what my DNA is, if I take care of myself and eat healthy and live right, I’ll never have the diseases my family has.
- If I believe in something long and hard enough, it will happen.
- If I hang on tight to people and control them they won’t leave.
These are just a few ideas I held dear to my heart. It wasn’t easy finding out my romantic and idealistic notions about life weren’t necessarily so.
I do not believe things as quickly as I did before I matured and began to get a little wisdom. I’ve learned to hold life more lightly and to test my beliefs before I throw myself into them head first. After close examination on the changes in my life and the new experiences I’ve lived, I ‘ve concluded there are eleven things that I do suspect are true.
1. When I say no because I really mean no, I like myself. The person I said no to may not like me but I’ve just reminded myself that it’s okay to say no. Being faithful to who I am is one way I honor my soul.
2. When I say yes to life without knowing how I’m going to accomplish what I said yes to, I’m giving myself an opportunity to expand, while stepping out of my comfort zone.
3. When I put my heart and soul on paper, I’m opening to myself and to my readers. I’m okay with sharing my life as long as it makes a difference for at least one person. Otherwise, I’m pouring seeds on stony ground.
4. When I receive comments from people who read my words, I know I’m being heard. Knowing my life has touched someone encourages me and makes me feel good.
5. When I’m willing to face my fears instead of run from them, I’m challenging myself to stay on the path and courageously continue to put one foot in front of the other.
6. Every time I opt out of my story, I set myself free to discover my authentic self. My story is deceiving and if I don’t pay attention I start believing it.
7. Any suffering I experience in life is not about the circumstances, experience, or people involved. I suffer because of what I tell myself about what’s happening. Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional.
8. Practicing mindfulness changes the way I perceive life. When I stay awake and bring presence to my every day life and chores, my perception changes.
9. Having close friends and a beautiful supportive husband who knows me, loves me and accepts me for who I am is priceless.
10. When I break through the inertia I sometimes experience about my writing, I see results. Putting my pen to paper and my fingers to the keyboard catapults me into another dimension. The world of creating through the use of words which join together to form phrases which morph into sentences, is a world I belong to. I’m grateful for the gift of knowing and living my passion and purpose.
11. As long as I live love and come from love, life flows. When I put my ego between my Self and love, all involved lose. Unconditional love, which is non-judgmental, heals and unites. Any message or behavior that is not rooted in love breeds distortion and division.
What do you suspect is true about yourself and life? Grab a piece of paper and a pen and write your answer. Putting your truth on paper is powerful. Once you’ve written something down you have evidence in front of your eyes of what you know and suspect to be true.
I’d appreciate hearing your thoughts on this topic. Please leave me a comment.